A lingerie party, also known as a bridal shower is an event thrown for a bride-to-be. The idea is to gather her inner circle of women together so they can gift her items she will use with her husband as a married woman. Traditionally, the gifts were intimate garments. However, these some of these events have become pretty risque, and gifts might include other items to spice up the life of the bride and groom behind closed doors.
The sky is the limit when it comes to these events. However, it is essential to keep the bride and her future husband in mind when planning the event. You want to make sure this special time with her friends is an occasion she will remember forever and one she enjoys.
If you are the host, you will want to incorporate lingerie-inspired decorations, great food, drinks, and party favors for the attendees. As a guest, you need to choose your gift wisely and conduct yourself, so the bride has the best time possible. Due to the personal nature of this gathering, it is a good idea to have some ideas about the event. So, here is a list of all the things you need to remember when planning or attending a lingerie party.
1. Types of Lingerie Parties
Lingerie parties range from risque to sweet depending on the bride you are throwing the party for and the guests who will be in attendance. If the bride’s mother is going to be there, you might want to keep things on the classy end of the spectrum. To get an idea of what everyone will be comfortable with, talk to the guest of honor to see what she wants.
If your friend is shy, you could have a wine and dine lingerie party where you and all of her closest friends gather together in a private room at a nice restaurant for a nice meal. There you can exchange gifts, and the bride can hold them up for everyone to see.
For conservative brides, you can also throw a brunch and bubbly party. A daytime event is also a good option if you are on a tighter budget or if you want the gathering to last for a shorter time.
For brides who are a bit more liberal, you can invite all the ladies to wear lingerie, and you can have the bride try on the items she receives in a fashion show. At this type of party, all of the ladies can tell the bride what they think of the negligees she receives.
If you are inviting everyone to come wearing lingerie, you might consider throwing an overnight party. A sleepover is a great way to ensure the bride and guests have plenty of time to enjoy themselves. Throwing this kind of event is nice because after the bride is married, it might be difficult for her to get away for nights like this with her friends.
2. Lingerie Party Dos
Lingerie parties are all about the bride-to-be. It is an event for her to let loose and have fun with her inner circle. So, make the occasion all about her. From the food to the gifts, keep her in mind.
Ask for her input on the guest list. The lingerie party is usually a bit more tame than the bachelorette party. So, she might want her mother-in-law, mom, sisters, aunts, or other family members invited. However, there is a chance she will only want her closest friends there. So, talking to her about it is the best idea.
If you are the host, you might want to take the bride to a lingerie store beforehand and have her fitted for items. Many women do not even know their proper bra size, so this is a great thing to do for your friend anyway. Also, you can get a perfect idea of the things she likes by taking her to a store to look and try some items on.
You might also ask her about different items she sees there and whether she has considered trying them with her future husband. If she is strongly opposed, that is information you might want to share with partygoers.
You also want to create an atmosphere at the party that supports your friend and encourages her to expand her horizons comfortably. You also want to help her keep track of all of the guests who attend and the gifts that they give so she can send them invitations for the items she receives if she wishes to do so.
3. Lingerie Party Donts
There are some things you do not want to do at the party. For example, you do not want to do anything to upset the bride-to-be. You also want to avoid embarrassing her or any of the other guests.
Do not ask her questions she does not feel comfortable answering or push her to try on anything she does not want to try on in front of a bunch of people. If she does try something on and does not want to come out wearing that item, do not push the issue.
It is also not a good idea to invite people to the party without consulting with her first. She might be close to her family, but she might be more comfortable letting loose without them in attendance. Not everyone wants their family or future husband’s mom seeing what they plan on wearing in their bedroom.
Do not invite men or children to the party or host it where they are present. You also want to make sure you have plenty of time. So, do not host the event at a time when you have time limits.
Another big no-no is picture taking of the bride or guests are wearing lingerie without their consent. If everyone is okay with photos, make sure no one posts them to social media without permission.
4. Lingerie Party Invitations
Sending out invitations is one of the most important steps in creating a memorable event for your friend. You will want to send out the invites as early as possible to make sure everyone the special lady wants to attend can make it.
Traditionally, the lingerie party is held before the bachelorette party. However, you do not want to have it too early. So, plan to throw the party no more than two months and no later than two weeks prior.
You also want to set the tone for the occasion, and there is some important information you will want to include. Pick an invitation that represents the type of lingerie party you are hosting. If the event is going to be a classy brunch in a public place, just make the invitations cute. If it is a more sexy party, you can send out a lingerie-themed invite.
The invitations need to list what the attire is for the party. They also need to include the date, time, and RSVP information. You will want guests to RSVP, so you know how much food to have, and if you are giving gifts away, you need to make sure you have enough for everyone.
You also need to include information about the types of gifts guests should bring for the bride-to-be. Be sure to include a list of things she wants, her size, and her color and style preferences.
5. Lingerie Party Venues
The venue is another key component you need to consider when throwing a lingerie party. Hotels, restaurants, and the maid of honor’s home are all good locations. You will want the venue to be a private location where the bride feels comfortable showing off her gifts.
If she is going to be trying the items on, you will want to have the event in a home or hotel room. If the maid of honor has a family, you will not want to use her home. So, a hotel is a good option in that situation.
Throwing the party in an upscale hotel is an excellent way for the bride and her friends to have a little getaway close to home. If you choose a hotel, make sure to get a room that is big enough to accommodate everyone and that there is a place for everyone to sleep.
If the pride is just going to hold her gifts up so everyone can see them, a private room at a restaurant will work. The maid of honor or host typically foots the bill, so that is something to consider when picking the venue.
Also, you will want to avoid outdoor locations and places where you have to be quiet. These events typically get pretty loud, and you want everyone to be able to let loose and have a great time.
6. Lingerie Party Games
You want to make sure the bride-to-be has fun and remembers the occasion, and playing some memorable games is a great way to do that. There are tons of games you can play at a lingerie party that are fun and are an excellent way to get to know each other better.
The lingerie guessing game is an easy game to play that does not require any additional supplies. For this game, you will want to instruct everyone not to write their name on the gift they bring. As the bride opens each package, she will guess who brought what.
Another fun game is the toilet paper lingerie game. For this game, you will need a bunch of rolls of toilet paper. You can divide the guests up into teams or have each person play individually. The object of the game is to make a piece of lingerie with nothing but toilet paper. The bride gets to choose the winner.
Loose lips is another easy game that does not require a lot of extra stuff. You choose a few words that fit the occasion like “lingerie,” “bra,” or the groom’s name. When everyone arrives, you tell them that they are not allowed to say those words. Each time someone says one of the forbidden phrases, you give them a point. The person with the least points at the end wins the game.
There are a lot more games to play at lingerie parties. Some require extra planning, and for others, you simply need some pens and printables to play. As a rule, you will want around five games to play throughout the event. Of course, depending on the length of time you are spending together, you can play a few more or less.
7. Food for Lingerie Parties
Whether you serve snacks or a full meal, you want to have food and drinks at a lingerie party. If you are hosting the party at a restaurant, planning and providing the food should be pretty straightforward. However, if you are paying for the entire party, you might want to limit the menu. You can do this by serving a bunch of appetizers instead of giving people the option of ordering whatever they want.
If you are throwing the party at a hotel or someone’s house, you will need to serve snacks. If you have an overnight lingerie party, be sure to have enough food for the entire time. You should also make sure no one has any special dietary requirements.
Small sandwiches, pinwheels, fruit, cookies, and cake are popular items at these events. You also have the option of getting creative with the menu. You can serve theme-related items, as well.
If you are hosting the party at your home or in a hotel room, you will want the menu to consist of mostly finger foods, so it is easy to eat and play games. If creating all of the food is overwhelming, you can ask each of the bridesmaids to bring a dish.
If your event is a sleepover, you will want to serve some light breakfast foods in the morning, as well. Bagels, donuts, or kolaches are a great option because they are all things people can grab as they leave in the morning.
8. Drinks for Lingerie Parties
You will need beverages at your lingerie party. Typically, women have wine or other alcoholic drinks at these events. However, you will need to have options without alcohol for people who prefer not to partake.
The drinks you serve will depend on the time of day you choose to host the party. For a brunch gathering, you might want to serve mimosas and coffee. At night, you might want to go with cocktails and wine. Ask the guest of honor what she prefers and make sure you have plenty of that available.
If providing the alcohol is too much for the host, ask the bridesmaids to each bring a bottle of their favorite wine or champagne to share. You might also want to make specialty drinks like color-changing lemonade that you can serve virgin or spiked.
9. Cakes for Lingerie Parties
You will want to have a cake at a lingerie party. There are tons of options to choose from, but again you will want to keep the bride and the venue in mind. Typically, the cake is made to look like a piece of lingerie, or a feminine cake is chosen. However, more adult cakes are sometimes present at these parties.
You can make the cake yourself or have it baked at a local bakery. If you want a more simple option, you can go with cupcakes and top them with lingerie party cake toppers. These toppers simply stick in the top of the cake, and they add to the overall theme of the party. If you are crafty, try your hand at making a corset cake.
10. Gifts for Lingerie Parties
If you are want to find the perfect gift for a lingerie party, it is crucial to think of the bride. Consider her personality. Is she sweet and innocent? Or, does she have a naughty side?
When choosing the gift, it is always better to go with something safe that you know she will use. You do not want your present to get thrown in a drawer because she is too uncomfortable to wear it. However, lingerie parties are also a way to introduce the bride-to-be to some things she might not consider buying on her own, too.
If you are not super close to the bride, or if you are unsure of what she is into silk pajamas or a sexy robe are some things she will use. For a good friend, you might want to get her something a bit more risque, even if she would not typically buy an item like that.
You also have the option of gifting something other than lingerie. Think about getting something to get the bride and her groom in the mood if you do not want to guess what clothing items she might wear. A romantic dinner, satin sheets, or a couple’s massage are good options.
Some brides might even be open to things that spice up the bedroom like furry handcuffs, edible underwear, and even toys. However, you should not purchase one of these gifts if you are unsure. When in doubt, ask the maid of honor or the host of the party for ideas.
If you are the host, be sure to consult the bride on what she wants and is comfortable receiving. Then, do your best to let the guests know ahead of time what they should and should not gift.
11. Decorations for Lingerie Parties
You can get creative with lingerie party decorations or go a more simple route. The decorations can also range from naughty to nice, depending on the venue and the bride. Balloons are a great option for sprucing up the environment no matter where the party is taking place.
Incorporating items the bride can use later is a great way to get the most for your money. Sexy satin or lace panties make great table-toppers that the bride can keep and use after the event. You can purchase them in an array of colors and styles. Handcuffs, silk sashes, and edible underwear are other items you can use as decorations.
You can also spruce up the tables with confetti and party favors. Just make sure the favors are in packages that match the theme and decor of the party.
12. Lingerie Party Prizes and Party Favors
The party is all about the bride, but you will want to have prizes for the winners of the games. These are typically small gifts. You can give little things or bigger prizes for the winners to gift to the bride.
Some good ideas include candles, bath products, and sweet treats. You can also gift lingerie items, or you can do a mix of bigger things and less expensive prizes.
In addition to the prizes for game winners, you need to have party favors for each guest. The favors are usually just small trinkets. Good ideas are things for the bride and guests to remember the event.
These items might be personalized containers filled with sweet treats. Or, you can give little plants, monogrammed glasses, or shower products. One of the best favors you can provide if you can afford them are wine glasses with each guest’s name. These are great because they can use them during the lingerie party and take them home to use them over and over again after the event.
Make sure you order a couple of extras just in case there are last-minute attendees who forget to RSVP or people the bride forgot to tell you to invite. You also need to have a favor for the guest of honor.
A lingerie party is one of the most exciting events for a woman during her engagement. So, make sure you do everything you can to make the event as unique and memorable as possible. These ideas should help you accomplish that.
When in doubt about anything, remember to consult with the guest of honor or her maid of honor. It is perfectly fine to ask what the bride wants or what her preferences are for this event. Lastly, have fun with it.